What options are there when dealing with older people who are actually fit and mobile?
Talk to each other about why social distance is still important. Take the shopping and other tasks out of the house for the parents, but the parents can do it for you, bake a cake for you, throw in letters on a short walk or take on other tasks that do not require social contact Relieve you anyway. This gives and takes and nobody has the feeling of becoming a burden.
I can’t take my parents’ shopping because they live too far away.
Then talk to your parents about how to organize it. Call neighbors, old friends of your own, or the parish of your parents and ask them for support. At the moment there is a great willingness to help in Germany, just don’t be shy. You can also ask someone like that to just pass by the parents now and then – of course with the necessary distance. So you can also learn from someone else how the parents really are. Many senior citizens are so fit in technical matters today that video calling is a good alternative for a visit.
Contact with others on site is difficult.
Then there is still the option of ordering something remotely from the parents via delivery service – be it food or something for entertainment, such as books.
Otherwise I am not in close contact with my parents, what should I know in an emergency?
One should first assume that everything is going well, but surely many are now also thinking about such things. For a medical emergency, you should know who the general practitioner is, whether the parents have pre-existing illnesses and allergies or take medication regularly. You should also know where the health insurance card is. If you have no idea of this, you should speak to your parents openly about it. If the parents are a little frail, the number of the neighbors doesn’t hurt either. They can at least take a look over to see if everything is okay.
Is there anything else important?
You can find out whether your parents have all the important vaccinations, especially the pneumococcal vaccine, and whether their daily medication is sufficiently available at home. The parents’ pharmacy and family doctor are good contacts here. If you have the feeling on the phone that the parents are not doing well, such as fever, fatigue and coughing, then older people should quickly seek medical help.
Somehow I have the feeling that my parents are very lonely.
If your parents are healthy and so are you, contact in the fresh air, for example a walk at a distance, is no problem to speak face-to-face, Geriater says. Just go about it “with wisdom and caution”.
My parents are in a nursing home, I am not allowed to visit them and that is difficult.
Here, too, there is of course primarily the possibility to make phone calls by video. If your parents can no longer do this yourself, some homes have now set up extra rooms where this can be done with help. You can also write letters, send puzzle books or old pictures. Some homes also allow contact with the necessary distance through windows on the ground floor to be able to really look each other in the eye. It’s best to ask at the home.
Is there anything else important?
Always comply with the distance rules and regular hand washing. Because only if you stay healthy can you take care of your parents. Geriatricians still advise that the family members with the lowest risk of infection should take priority and not exactly those who have symptoms of respiratory disease themselves, were in a so-called risk area, but are still very much among people or have other risk factors – even if they are who have always looked after.